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My 6 and 3 year olds respond well to a point system. I don't know what I did without it. Negative discipline did not work with them...I tried spanking and time outs, and I would just get more frustrated. They both have big dry erase boards hanging on the wall in the kitchen. I wrote their names really big and colorful on them, and they just think they are the coolest thing. They get points for things like going potty (even my 6 year old gets points for this since my younger one does), eating dinner, saying excuse me, etc. They also get points taken away for breaking rules. They can't stand it!! If they throw a fit when they get a point taken away, they lose them all. They have a clear understanding of the rules. We sat down and discussed them one night, and they even helped me decide what the rules should be. 5 points gets a prize out of the prize jar (mainly candy). 75 points gets $5 or a prize from the store. I can't explain the order it has brought to our family.! I have not had to use time out or any negative discipline since starting this, and I am a much happier mommy! You know what she is capable of understanding and what kind of system would work for her. You can even use pictures or just let her draw from a prize jar when she does something good. If points might be confusing with her, she'll understand getting prizes instead. You can even give something like pennies for her piggy bank. Kids just love praise and prizes!
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03-13-2006 02:02 PM
