DownSyn Forum

Downmama

not a good feeling when you have to leave your child with these people every day, all day and you feel like they are the enemy.

I have a meeting on Tuesday morning. They know I'm not happy so they bring NINE people to the meeting. How do they look in the mirror when they purposely try to intimidate sp needs parents that are just trying to keep their child safe...?

NINE people! I don't even know two of thema nd ONE is not even SpEd!!!

... and our teacher, who says she loves my son so much has completely sold him out!!!

... you see the eye shifts and the body language that says..."Whoa! don't say too much!" They think we don't see this stufff.... it's so insulting!

... can u tell i'm not looking forward to this meeting...?

UUGH.

_________________

kittycat3376 · Posted: May 24 2008, 3:19 AM Post subject:

((((((hugs)))))). I know how difficult some school districts can be. It amazes me that so many of these stories come from Georgia, the home of the National Down Syndrome Society. I wonder at times how they can possibly handle these things on a national level when some of the worst problems are in their own back yard.

If you can, get an advocate. Even if it only brings the numbers game down to 9 to 2, it still helps the intimidation factor quite a lot when you know that someone in the room is on your side and is well aware of the IDEA laws and perfectly willing to call the school on it when they break them. If you can't get an advocate, then bring friends and family members who spend a lot of time with him. They may not know the IDEA laws any better than the next layperson, but they DO know your son, and can back you up if the school personnel bring up "placement concerns" that YOU, who know his personality far better than they ever will, know are not going to be a problem for him.

_________________
http://www.carepages.com/carepages/DavidLucas

EAS1971 · Posted: May 24 2008, 6:37 PM Post subject:

I feel for you, because I soooo know what you mean!! It sucks. Sorry, no advice at all. Good luck!!!!!

_________________
--Beth
Mom to Oliver, 5 (DS, ADHD)
and Sebastian, 4

Emdad · Posted: May 25 2008, 12:35 AM Post subject:

I agree, you need reinforcements. I don't know the level of your intestinal fortitude, but I'd ask each person there that you don't know why they are there. That sort of intimidation is uncalled for. If I were really that apprehensive (and mad about it), I'd take a video camera, and ask them on camera. But that's just me, and I've never had to do that sort of thing.
Postpone it if you need to, if you need to get your army together. . . blech.

ecki · Posted: May 25 2008, 8:12 AM Post subject:

Sorry you have to deal with this. Our school district is very easy to deal with and I still bring my Service Coordinator and if needed an advocate. Definitely bring some people on your side!

_________________
Ecki

MomMom of Kayla (Ds/Autism 4/5/04) and Laurie (PDD-NOS 7/12/01)

Our Blog - Opposite Kids
Kayla's Story http://www.ecki.com/kayla/

Friend me on FACEBOOK (please specify Downsyn, so I know who you are!)

Ibby · Posted: May 25 2008, 10:04 AM Post subject:

I just wanted to say I'm sorry that you have to go through all of this....but I'm proud of you for standing up to them. I wish we lived closer....I'd go with you!! Good luck and let us know how it goes!

Ibby

_________________
Ibby
Wife to Tim- 22 years. Mother to Maggie,21; Bridget,19; Kevin,17; Sean,15; Daniel,12; Catherine,11; Robert,8; Emily,7; Maria,5; Hope, 4, AJ (Ds) June 14, 2006

http://www.onetruemedia.com/shared?p=26012b09b29bd00fe629cb&skin_id=0&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url

briarsmom · Posted: June 17 2008, 9:45 PM Post subject:

I know how you feel. Hope all went well. Briars first iep meeting there was 12 people !!! However they new I was VERY upset with them and ready to go to court over it. You are the parents and we have to take care of our kids. They say they care and even my brother and sister in law who are teachers tell me that the schools really try to do what is best for the child. Well that is a bunch of bull.

So sorry to vent anyway I hope all went well

_________________

Lori
Wife to Wes (briarsdad)
Mom to Will(11)9-14-98 Briar(8)DS 6-22-01

Reylah · Posted: June 17 2008, 9:59 PM Post subject:

A little late but........I'm a teacher, and I talk to the Sp. Ed teachers where I work. I can honestly say:

don't trust the admisintration. Keep one eye on them at all times. They will scrap services if they can, and if you don't call them on it, they will get away with it. I see kids at work not getting services because the parents are clueless.

Look on your state's department of education page. They have advocates there. Good luck!

_________________

Erin-Leigh
Mommy to Dillon James(DJ) 3/15/05 Carter Joseph 10/3/08