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LindensMama

I frequently look at the kids on Reece's Rainbow and pray for them to find families. There is this one girl who just tugs at my heartstrings a little more than the others. I think she looks like my Linden and I just had this feeling of "That is my DAUGHTER" when I first saw her picture. Her name is Anastasia and she's 4.5 years old and facing the institution soon. I could burst into tears at any given moment just thinking about how badly I want to be her mom. I feel like my child is far away and I just need her to come home.

She's the sixth picture down.
http://www.reecesrainbow.com/newsite/waitingchild13.html

Well, fast forward a little bit.

For my Linden's first birthday party, instead of gifts, we asked for donations to Reece's Rainbow. I sent off the money and told Andrea to apply it to where she thought was best. She sent me an email thanking me for the donation and told me who she applied the birthday money to. My heart almost jumped completely out of my chest when I saw that it was ANASTASIA!! I burst into tears. What are the odds that the very child that I've fallen for got Linden's birthday money? Andrea said that she chose her because she thought that she and Linden looked like sisters. They really do!

I really, really, want Anastasia to be in our family, but I'm terrified of the costs even though at the same time I feel a peace about it. I just want to know how to get my daughter home. I really feel like she's my daughter. I can say that here, because, I'm sure alot of you have felt the same way and you won't think I'm crazy, even though I feel like it. Wink

I'm terrified to let my husband know because I don't want to hear him say 'no'.

Where do I get started? How much do adoptions really cost? Do I have to travel to Eastern Europe?

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Bianca and Joseph est. December 2007
Tristen Payge--6
Aislinn Frances--4
Linden Caroline---9.1.08--DS--CAVC repaired 11.17.08

~Ben'smum~ · Posted: November 03 2009, 4:25 PM Post subject:

I don't normally look at that site anymore coz I feel like you, I want one so badly but have a reluctant spouse. It breaks my heart thinking what kind of a future they're facing when I'm willing to share my home, love and whole life with one of them.
I looked anyway and She is beautiful. I hope you can find a way to adopt her.

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Adens mummy · Posted: November 03 2009, 7:20 PM Post subject:

Hehe I know how you feel. I didn’t like posting about it because I felt I was crazy lol. We don't have the option to adopt as we are in Australia.

Where to start, contact Andrea again. Ask her to send you information about Anastasis country, about travel and costs.
This page will also help

RR is also on Yahoo you will find a link on their web site. You might like to join that for support and finding ways around your DH hahahaha.
And we can all start praying for your DH. Mine would love to, it brakes our hearts.

Every montage, every video clip I watch I have him watch with me. At first to was reluctant. I also have photo’s of the children I pray for on our fridge, the kids are in his face many times a day.
He now says ‘have you paid into Zhenya’s account today? Lol every month on payday.
I’ll start praying for your DH now.

Wink

Why not sign him up to be her pray warrior? As well as yourself but give him the letter when it arrives.

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LindensMama · Posted: November 04 2009, 9:33 AM Post subject:

I 'planted the seed', so to speak, of adoption. My husband said that he didn't think we could do it. I just kept my cool the whole time, trying not to be too emotional about it because I think that would turn him off rather than get him interested. He said 'it wouldn't be fair to bring a child into our family where our kids fight all the time.' So I said, 'you think it will be better where she'll go if we wouldn't?" He didn't say anything after that, so I'm just letting him think.

PLease keep us, him, Anasasia in your prayers!

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Bianca and Joseph est. December 2007
Tristen Payge--6
Aislinn Frances--4
Linden Caroline---9.1.08--DS--CAVC repaired 11.17.08

thadlo · Posted: November 04 2009, 10:22 AM Post subject:

You and your husband will definately be in my prayers. I traveled to China with my sister a few years ago to adopt my niece and felt called to adopt as well. I tried convincing my husband in every way possible - including begging. He never relented. I still have that desire but it was to the point where it was causing problems.
I pray he will feel the same calling as you. She is beautiful and deserves all the love in the world.

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JanetG · Posted: November 04 2009, 11:23 AM Post subject:

She IS beautiful. I also feel the call to adopt, but my husband won't even consider it. I pray daily for something to touch his heart... I will add your family to my prayers.

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Adens mummy · Posted: November 04 2009, 6:51 PM Post subject:

praying.

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EliasMom · Posted: November 04 2009, 8:52 PM Post subject:

I was very pushy about the adoption theme, and my husband always said no, when i left everything on Gods hands, knowing that HE was the only one that would put adoption into my husbands heart I felt much better, and began doing other stuff at RR, like translating to spanish, using my design skills and generaly advocating

a year later, my husband has agreed that adoption could be an option, but still NOT a kid with DS (or any other special needs) and from our country

but still we are just waiting to know whats next. And Im sure again that IF God tell him to go to EE, China or whatever my husband will come around, so I just wanted to let you know to pray and let God to take control =)

ps. and yes anastasia looks so much like your daughter!

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ellenstumbo · Posted: November 05 2009, 12:02 AM Post subject:

We are about to travel and go get our girl (from RR)

Money is huge, it is what almost kept us from saying yes. HOWEVER, where God leads He provides.

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AliMama · Posted: November 05 2009, 12:50 AM Post subject:

Talk about crazy! I'm still coming to grips with having a baby with DS, and I'm already thinking about adopting! I'm afraid to look--

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LindensMama · Posted: November 09 2009, 9:31 PM Post subject:

AliMama wrote:

Talk about crazy! I'm still coming to grips with having a baby with DS, and I'm already thinking about adopting! I'm afraid to look--

Don't look unless you want to fall in love!!!! Wink

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Bianca and Joseph est. December 2007
Tristen Payge--6
Aislinn Frances--4
Linden Caroline---9.1.08--DS--CAVC repaired 11.17.08

LindensMama · Posted: November 09 2009, 9:32 PM Post subject:

EliasMom wrote:

I was very pushy about the adoption theme, and my husband always said no, when i left everything on Gods hands, knowing that HE was the only one that would put adoption into my husbands heart I felt much better, and began doing other stuff at RR, like translating to spanish, using my design skills and generaly advocating

a year later, my husband has agreed that adoption could be an option, but still NOT a kid with DS (or any other special needs) and from our country

but still we are just waiting to know whats next. And Im sure again that IF God tell him to go to EE, China or whatever my husband will come around, so I just wanted to let you know to pray and let God to take control =)

ps. and yes anastasia looks so much like your daughter!

That is exactly what I'm doing and hoping for.

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Bianca and Joseph est. December 2007
Tristen Payge--6
Aislinn Frances--4
Linden Caroline---9.1.08--DS--CAVC repaired 11.17.08

MamaCarrie · Posted: November 10 2009, 1:41 AM Post subject:

Well... I could write a bunch, but I'll try to keep this from getting too rambly. We have adopted twice, and both times I was the one more gung-ho... I would definitely describe my husband as being reluctant. And while I did certainly feel led to adopt my children, I think that using that kind of terminology can get in the way sometimes. I think we (all) need to start thinking of adoption as simply another way to build our families. I mean, most of us don't expect that folks need to feel "called" to conceive... it's just what people normally do, right? You fall in love, get married, get pregnant. And though those of us who are spiritual/religious generally are trying to check in w/God about the direction we're going when those big decisions come, I find that the idea of adoption carries this extra burden... you have to be CALLED to adopt. Why? I mean, yes, it is often a more intensive and certainly a more intentional process that conceiving a birth child can be. But my position is that EVERYONE who is a reasonably healthy, functional adult ought to seriously consider adoption. There are so many kids out there that need homes. And you don't have to be a perfect parent or a perfect family. I am mulling a blog post about all of this... it *is* adoption awareness month, you know!
Anyhow... my recommendation is lots of prayer, and lots of honest discussion w/your husband.
Good luck...

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