My little boy, Matt, had the AVSD too. We didn't know about his DS until 30mins post birth.
i guess we were probably one of the lucky ones. Matt never had problems feeding drinking a bottle in 10mins. He never had any symptoms of having a bad heart - no blueness, no breathlessness, he was not a sleepy baby, or anything.
[bold]And he came home with me the day he was born[/bold] - pretty much unheard of for kids with DS and AVSD, so I'm told. He was closely monitored, but did fine. At around 3 mths he stopped putting weight on so well, so was put on higher calorie formula (though this just seemed to make him grow width-wise, without growing height-wise, so he looked pretty fat!)
Post surgery, he was no different. He still had loads of energy, ate well, etc. But we knew his heart was fixed. Matt is one of those children who didn't have the best repair, and is left with a significant leak in his valve, but is doing fine!
It's amazing how the same heart defect can affect children in so many different ways. One boy the same age as Matt with the same defect was in and out of hospital from the moment he was born til his surgery, on oxygen and all kinds of medication. Matt, on the other hand, has only ever gone to hospital for his surgery, and that's it.
With regards your 2yr old, I wouldn't tell them too much about DS yet. I also had a 2yr old when Matt was born, and she coped fine. We always told her Matt had Down's SYndrome, but it meant nothing to her. WE just wanted her to be comfortable with the words. And, as for the extra dr's visit, and therapies, she knew no different, and jsut assumed that this was normal when a baby was born. Now, she doesn't remember those days, at all, but has a better understanding of DS, even if it's just that Matt's got it, and it means he learns things a bit slower.
Matt's surgery was hard on Rachael, and her behaviour changed a lot. But with reassurance and lots of cuddles she was back to normal in no time.
Even at 2, my daughter enjoyed the book 'We'll paint the Octopus Red'. It's a great story about a little girl whose brother has DS. And although Rachael didn't understand about the DS part of it, she enjoyed the story. You can get it on Amazon.
Anyway, that's a lot of info to digest so I'll stop now! All the best.
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Helen
Mum to Rachael Kinza (25/07/01), Matthew Isaac DS (14/06/03) and Hannah Cerys (14/06/05) - my gorgeous children! 
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