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03-21-2006 06:09 PM
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Here's a link to an article that was published in NYT - http://www.nytimes.com/2006/03/12/magazine/312wrongful.1.html?pagewanted=1

This is the letter to the editor that I wrote -

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Dear Editor,

I read the article, “A Wrongful Birth?” I was very disturbed, saddened and quite upset reading the article. I want to quote this statement, “No matter the legal context, terminating a wanted pregnancy is no one's first choice, but for the time being at least, when faced with a fetus that will become a severely handicapped child, all the choices are bad.” This statement made me very upset. That statement is an absolute lie! In all means, there is no truth to that statement. I am the sister of a little boy with Down Syndrome, which, in part is a big reason why I was greatly upset over the article I read. My parents did not know my brother would be born with Down Syndrome. It was a surprise to us all. But, we did not feel any sadness about that. The moment I saw my brother wheeled by me from the operating room, minutes after he was born, to the NICU, was a moment of joy. It was amazing to see such a little baby that God brought into the world. When my father came out of the NICU and said, “it looks like the little boy may have Down Syndrome,” it did not hardly phase me at all. I, as well as my family, knew very little about Down Syndrome, but my very first thought was, “that’s not bad . . . I will be there for him whenever he needs me.”

Now, 14 months later, all my brother has been to the family is a tremendous blessing! He brings so much joy to the family, with his huge smiles, happy countenance, a happy attitude, and the adorable clapping he does all the time when he is excited! Yet, there is a very, very sad reality that the big majority of these little blessings are aborted. Yes, my brother might be slower than other children, he may need help with some things, but that is no reason to take the life of a wonderful little child. How sad it is to think that so many people in this world are so selfish, they will not take the time to give these Down Syndrome babies a chance at life. The choices are not bad! If God wants to give someone the blessing of a baby with Down Syndrome, that child should not, in any circumstance be aborted. I hope this will be able to be seen by the public. I am crying out for those who cannot cry out - the unborn! Please, anyone, feel free to email me at hoppinherdofhares@direcway.com.
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03-21-2006 06:40 PM
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Could you copy and paste the article so I don't have to sign up...thanks!
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03-21-2006 07:33 PM
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I suggust that you cancel your subscription/stop purchasing the Times if you are not happy with the story. I gave up on the NY Times a long time ago.

03-21-2006 07:38 PM
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try using
user id: timessux9
password: timessucks

It will probably get cancelled after a little while but it should work for a few days.
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03-21-2006 08:26 PM
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Thanks TOm for the password....I wish I didn't use it...how sad for all of them!
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03-21-2006 09:09 PM
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Kokie .. I'm proud of you for writing the letter. People NEED to hear the other side...even if they subscribe to the NY Times.
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03-21-2006 10:40 PM
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Beautiful letter...and very well written. I wish everyone knew how valuable each and every life is....no matter how many chromosomes they have.
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03-22-2006 10:52 AM
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Wonderful job!!! Thanks for writing that heart felt letter!
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03-23-2006 10:09 AM
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Tom.....your timessucks password and user name are too funny!!!

Kokie I think your letter was beautifully written and exactly what needed to be said. I took the time to read the article and think if the writer had left out her personal experiences it would have been much better. The comment you quoted her on, the title of the article, and how she bragged about not regretting her own choices in the end were horrible.

When are people going to take the responsibility that when you make the decision to have children it might not turn out like you planned and that sometimes it's just as well? That maybe life is not about what you want or how thing/people look on the outside and that IQ doesn't equal quality of life? Ok.....I know the answer to that is never. People would rather blame someone else and feel sorry for themselves. Their own little temper tantrums. Our legal system should hold them responsible and that will never happen either.

In the middle of the self serving writer of this article (whice is too long to cut and paste) and the horrible parents of AJ (actually it sounds like the mom is worse than the dad to me) there were some things said by professionals that were right on. I also didn't know about the move by senators to try to make drs present the positive side of life with differently-abled children. So, I'm not sorry I read it but sorry at some of the things said and how they're a part of my memory now.

I guess I'm mostly sad for the people who don't and never will get it and the impact they're allowed to have on those poor children.

Ramble over.
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03-23-2006 10:29 AM
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Sheri- I totally agree w/ all that you said!!!
There were pluses to some of it but the negitatives far outway the positives and are cause for rioting.
Let's hope that the journalist doesn't end up like Christopher Reeves or Terry Shivo because then she wouldn't deserve to live (notice the sarcasim)...ugh!

I am so flustered by this and wish I could get over it...but between this article and the one posted by Amy in STB I am sickened and angry

But Brian Skotko is AMAZING! He is trying to get legislation passed for how doctors have to give parents the news of a diagnosis...Our Sarah was on GMA with him at Children's Hospital in Boston! I still have it saved on TIVO


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03-23-2006 01:44 PM
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Everyone is entitled to their opinion. It's why we fight for our right to free speech. It may not be what we would choose but again we do not have the right to tell others what to think or do. It said in the article that the mother and father came to love their child. Who are we to throw stones especially when it's a newspaper article. Who really knows the voice inflections and what was taken out of context. I dated a college basketball coach for a time and every single article I read in the sports page was conjecture and flat out lies at times. I came to realize that papers sell headlines and can write what they want.

I cannot say what we would have done if the CVS had been done correctly. It was certainly a heated debate around here while waiting. There is a much bigger plan for this family and in the meantime I have a baby to love and hold and help. That is my focus. We will never change others who have their heads in the sand. There are those who know exactly what they can handle and what they can't.

Larkin has changed me and my husband. He never had a difficulty in his life really. I have had a lot and so I roll better. He is learning. It's made him a better man, father and in the end a better human. His horizon is much larger now. Isn't that the point of it all anyway?

Articles will come and go. There are many positive ones written as well. Until people are touched with what I call the "humbling experience" they won't get it.

Just my 2 cents. That doesn't buy much now does it.


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03-23-2006 05:52 PM
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the user name and password doesn't work for me

so I can't comment on the article

but lovely letter Kokie


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